In Romans one the Bible teaches that the existence of God is plain to everybody yet people refuse to acknowledge him. It says that people have chosen to suppress truth in order to chase wickedness. It says that people’s minds have become so twisted that things which are completely unnatural and should be obvious have become normal. Then there is this sentence.

And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done.    Romans 1:28 (ESV)

It seems to me that—
  • A time comes when God throws his hands up in the air and say, “Fine, if that’s what you want then I’m not going to stop you.”
  • God’s willingness to fight our battles for us is limited.
  • God only protects us from ourselves up to a point.
  • We have an obligation:
    • an obligation to seek God;
    • an obligation to cooperate with God;
    • an obligation to join with him in the fight for our own souls.

And if we refuse, it seems that God will not stop us from choosing the path to which we are so dedicated—even when it means our own destruction.

So, if God won’t make people’s choices for them, why do I think I can?

Why do I presume I can make people chose righteousness over evil?

Why do I take responsibility when people chose the lie over truth?

Why do I fight harder for them than they fight for themselves?

The Bible doesn’t suggest that God gives up on people, but it does suggest that God is willing to let people go their own way. God won’t make our choices for us. As badly as he desires the best for us, God will not coerce us into pursuing that end. God loves us enough to allow us to make our own decisions—and the consequences which accompany those decisions.

So, in my relationships I will love deeply. I will fight by your side. I will prop you up when you think you can’t keep going. I will come alongside you and help you process and think and feel and yell and cry. I will challenge you with truth. I will accept you for who you are no matter what you choose.

But I cannot make your choices for you.

I cannot take responsibility for your decisions.

I cannot force you do the right thing.

That’s on you, my friend. That’s between you and God. That’s the stuff life is made of.

So choose this day whom you will serve, whether the God of truth and light and love, or the god of lies and darkness and despair. But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.